You, Me, Empathy - Episode 84: Creating Safe Spaces for People to Be Seen and Heard with Lisa Olivera

On Episode 84 of You, Me, Empathy, Lisa Olivera and I explore the identity struggle of adoptees, why healing is non-linear and messy, the New York (freaking) Times feature on Lisa, and the need for all of us to create safe spaces for each other.

We kick off talking about the overwhelm that comes with being mentioned in the New York Times, but how that experience for Lisa has created opportunity for more connection and healing for all. We explore safety in vulnerability, how to get back to connection with ourselves when we’re feeling disconnected, and awareness in self-care practice.

Lisa then shares her story about being an adopted child, which first started by being abandoned as a two-day old baby in Muir Woods. Lisa opens up about the resentment she felt, the feelings of loss and confusion, and the impact that had on her identity. At 14, after many years of identity grappling and a suicide attempt, Lisa found herself in therapy for the first time and felt the beauty of being seen and being heard for who she was.

Finally, we talk about Lisa’s therapy philosophy, the curse of people-pleasers, the book she’s working on, her rapidly growing Instagram following, recent tv and books we’ve loved, and how crucial it is for our collective path forward to build safe spaces for all of us to be heard, to be seen, to be witnessed as the beautiful feely humans you are, we are, all of us are. Safe spaces, ya’ll. It’s what it’s all about.

Thanks to Lisa Olivera and her beautiful heart for sharing her story!

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