YOU, ME, EMPATHY RESOURCES
This is an ongoing, continually updated list of all the tools, apps, books, music, podcasts, and resources that I or my guests have mentioned on my podcast: You, Me, Empathy. Some are projects You, Me, Empathy guests are a part of, some are books they've written, some are podcasts they host, and all are beacons of hope that can help us more emphatically and wholeheartedly embrace empathy, foster mental health awareness, focus on self care, and remind ourselves that we are valid feely humans.
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You know those emotions that are just so hard to describe and explain to a friend or your therapist? These are what Rukmini Poddar, creator of Dear Ruksi and guest on Episode 19 of You, Me, Empathy, calls "obscure emotions." Send your emotions in, and Dear Ruksi transforms them into art!
the mental illness happy hour with paul gilmartin
Paul Gilmartin is one of my empathy heroes. The Mental Illness Happy Hour, a podcast he's been running for years, is a magical exploration of mental illness in an environment that is warm and cuddly and with the right amount of Gilmartin snark. I had the honor to have Paul on Episode 12 of You, Me, Empathy exploring intimacy and boundaries!
The body keeps the score by bessel van derk kolk
First mentioned in Episode 5 of You, Me, Empathy on PTSD, Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score has become a mainstay on the podcast. It's a remarkable look at how we hold trauma in our physical bodies, and the research Bessel has done in the areas of post-traumatic stress disorder among soldiers and trauma sexual assault survivors.
Headspace is an app that takes you through guided meditation. It's a well-designed and intuitive app experience, and a lovely and easy foray into meditation. For someone like myself, who has limited experience with meditation, it's really helpful. As mentioned in Episode 10 of You, Me, Empathy on meditation, yoga, and mindfulness.
crisis text line
Christina Isler, sexual assault survivor and guest of Episode 21 of You, Me, Empathy, is a volunteer for Crisis Text Line, a service that empowers you to text and connect directly with a crisis counselor to help you during moments of crisis and struggle. It's an amazing service, and grateful it exists.
everything is horrible and wonderful by stephanie wittels wachs
After listening to Stephanie Wittels Wachs on Alison Rosen's podcast, I knew I had to read her book: Everything is Horrible and Wonderful. Because isn't life that way? Replete with ebbs and flows and wild and wonderful and terrible and overwhelming all at once? It's a stunning book that'll make you laugh and weep uncontrollably.
David Grabowski's music
David is a friend, a co-worker, and my "trundle bundle." But he's also a fantastic creator of music for performance, movies, and he's the genius behind the You, Me, Empathy theme song! He's a wondrous talent, and a beautiful human who often muses about how he's connected to the world.
Fun home by Alison bechdel
Fun Home, Alison Bechdel's award-winning graphic memoir, is one of the most gorgeous and vulnerable portrayals of an adolescent coming to terms with her own sexuality. It's raw and real and hilarious. The book was also adapted to the stage, which is solid, but mostly wondrous because if its musical charm.
jiggsy by laura hearn
Laura Hearn, the creator of Jiggsy, shared her anorexia story and recovery on Episode 25 of You, Me, Empathy. Jiggsy is a beautiful community, is a platform for connection, healing, and expressions of creativity with the goal of recovery. Laura, as a good empathy hero does, is using her experience to impact the lives of others who've experienced similar struggles.
Stop, Breathe & think app
Stop, Breathe & Think is an app that empowers you to take a moment amidst the chaos to check in with yourself and your emotions. We all need that. Especially us feely humans. As mentioned on Episode 10 of You, Me, Empathy with Jordana Reim.
sarah jickling and her good bad luck
Sarah Jickling, guest of Episode 15 of You, Me, Empathy on bipolar disorder, is an amazing singer-songwriter that evokes some of my favorites like Regina Spektor and Fiona Apple. But she's entirely her own—remarkably so—in her exploration of her own mental illness within her music and those catchy pop beats that make your heart swell.
meowskertown by benjamin dewey
Meowskertown, created by the inestimable Benjamin Dewey, is a collection of ongoing "cartoons to brighten your day." Sometimes we need brighter days than we allow ourselves, and Ben's witty, silly, cat-loving musings accomplish exactly that. Go support a brightness-imagineer on Patreon. As mentioned in Episode 2 with Benjamin Dewey on Grief.
the one you feed podcast
Want to learn from some of the most fascinating humans on the planet? That's what The One You Feed gives you—this gift of inspiring conversation about living a more fulfilled and happy life. Listen to Eric Zimmer, creator of The One You Feed, talk about depression on You, Me, Empathy.
word by word by kory stamper
If you're a word nerd like me, you'll adore Kory Stamper's Word By Word: The Secret Life of Dictionaries. The book is part word nerd heaven, part beautiful memoir, and 100 percent a book that brings me joy. Give it a read, and check out Kory Stamper talking about mental health language on Episode 20!
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) is an organization that fights valiantly against sexual violence in the United States. They offer victim services, public education, public policy, and consulting services. If you've experienced sexual abuse, this is the place to start. RAINN was mentioned on Episode 22 on sexual assault with Christina Isler.
Lighter than my shadow by katie green
Katie Green's heartbreaking and mind-bogglingly beautiful Lighter Than My Shadow hit me right in the heart. This graphic novel depicts Katie's experience with anorexia and bulimia, the former of which I struggled with too. If you want to understand the mind of someone who has an eating disorder, this book is for you.
political correctness and lessons in empathy by shannon strucci
Shannon Strucci makes brilliantly conceived, well-researched and insightful YouTube videos on film, social constructs, video games, manga, and more. With her video, "Political Correctness and Lessons in Empathy," she explores empathy in the context of YouTube and internet culture. It's a fascinating and necessary watch. As mentioned in Episode 23 of You, Me, Empathy on parasocial relationships.
THE TRIck is to keep breathing by Janice galloway
Janice Galloway's book, The Trick Is To Keep Breathing, is a powerful, heartbreaking depiction of psychological struggle. I read this during the throws of my anorexia, and I deeply related to the main character. As mentioned in Episode 15 of You, Me, Empathy with Sarah Jickling.
hyperbole and a half
Allie Brosh, the creator of Hyperbole and a Half, isn't online anymore. And she hasn't created any new blog posts since 2013, but her work is an essential mental health resource. She explores, often in the most hilarious ways, anxiety, depression, isolation, self-esteem, and what it means to be a fallible human just trying to get by. Once you're done reading every single blog post, go pick up her book.
i will always be depressed, and i'm okay with that by bethanne patrick
In the very first episode of You, Me, Empathy on mental health stigma, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend Bethanne Patrick. She shared this beautiful story of hers—depicting her diagnosis of double depression, what that means, and how it saved her life. It's a must read for anyone who's experienced depression and wants a little hope.
codependent no more by melody beattie
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie is a classic tome on guiding people in becoming less dependent on and controlling of the people in our lives. It helped Mindy Holahan, who shared her struggles with codependency on Episode 17 of You, Me, Empathy. I feel anyone who wants to foster healthy relationships should read this book!
I first heard of #The100DayProject from my friend Jennifer Newman. And then was reminded again by Rukmini Poddar of DearRuksi.com. Anyone can sign up, and when you do, for 100 days straight, you create and you share. It's an amazing exercise in creativity, self-care, and self-awareness!
Maria Bamford (Lady Dynamite) wears her heart on her sleeve, and bravely and hilariously incorporates her struggles with mental illness into her comedy. She's one of my personal empathy heroes and someone I go to when I want to feel less alone. As mentioned in Episode 15 on bipolar disorder with Sarah Jickling. Photo credit: Natalie Brasington.
We all need sleep. Like "if you don't sleep you die" need. And I'd argue that we all need moments of meditation too. The Calm app empowers you to do both really well. As Tony mentioned on Episode 11 on mindfulness, meditation has been shown to help with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and other mental health struggles also.
DrugRehab.com is an online information center dedicated to those battling addiction and mental health issues. Their goal is to equip families with the necessary tools and resources to guide them on the road to recovery. It's a fantastic, well-researched, and thorough database of addiction resources and support.
Hope for the day
Hope For The Day achieves proactive suicide prevention by providing outreach, education, and activism on mental health care. When I was in my darkest period of my life, I actively contemplated suicide. You know what was one of the messages that helped save my life? IT's OK NOT TO BE OK. Right back at you, friend. We're in this thing together.